If you correlate 'growth' with money exclusively then you're fucked regardless. Maybe he's spending that time becoming the world's best mahjong player or something?

Women, just like men, are varied. Some think financial stability and upwards mobility is very important and probably will not date a person on NAV. Others have other priorities, and may find the fact that you have free time to do whatever you want instead of spending 8 hours a day making someone else richer very appealing. Don't use broad brush strokes to paint about 50% of the population, and search for the right types of people, just like any other situation.